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The Lie of “Normal”

  You Were Taught There’s a “Normal” You’ve been taught there’s a normal way to think, feel, and behave. There isn’t. There’s only what most people agree on. And agreement is not the same as truth. If enough people believe something, it becomes “reasonable.” If you don’t, you become the problem. That’s not normal. That’s social compliance . Different Doesn’t Mean Broken Take someone on the autism spectrum. They may read social situations differently. Respond differently. Process differently. Does that make them abnormal? Or does it expose something uncomfortable—that “normal” is just a narrow lens, not an objective reality? What makes sense to you might not make sense to someone else. That doesn’t make either of you wrong. It means you’re operating from different frameworks. We Built a World That Defines “Normal” for You Let’s be honest. You don’t just discover what’s normal—you’re told. You’re told: What success should look like What your body should look like What happin...

Why Children Need Resilience More Than Ever

Why Children Need Resilience More Than Ever (And What Adults Are Missing) We Are Raising Children in a Time of Instability Now more than ever, there is a growing need for resilient children. The pandemic didn’t just create a temporary disruption—it shifted the emotional baseline. For many families, there is no longer a sense of stability or “normal.” Instead, what exists is inconsistency, disorientation, and uncertainty. Families are dealing with: Job loss Financial strain Housing insecurity Emotional exhaustion Children are watching this unfold in real time. And for many of them, it feels like the foundation beneath their lives is slowly breaking apart. The Mental Health Impact on Teens Teen mental health has become a growing concern. Rates of anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation among adolescents have increased significantly in recent years, with additional strain following the pandemic. Teenagers are not only managing developmental stress—they are doing ...

Healing the Past: Karma, Trauma, and What Real Growth Actually Requires

  Healing the Past: Karma, Trauma, and What Real Growth Actually Requires This post came after I went to a psychic for a tarot reading. She suggested I had karmic debt from past lives and unresolved childhood trauma that was blocking my growth. She also offered to “cut the cord” of this karmic energy—for a significant fee. Whether she was right or not isn’t the point. The point is something deeper: how we understand the past, and how we attempt to heal it. Karma: Action, Consequence, and Continuity Karma is often described as action—and through action, we accumulate consequence. In many spiritual frameworks, karma follows a cycle of birth, death, and rebirth. Unresolved actions carry forward until they are addressed. The idea presented to me was simple: cut the karmic cord and start fresh. But that raises a serious question. If karma is about balance, what happens when you “remove” it? Can You Actually “Cut” Karma? If karma represents unresolved consequence, then severing it impli...

Gender versus Sex: What's the Difference?

Sex vs Gender: Understanding Identity, Science, and Social Meaning There is a lot of confusion and emotion surrounding the topic of gender in today’s cultural climate. This post is not about winning arguments. It is about clarifying definitions—so discussions about identity, biology, and behavior can happen with more accuracy and less misunderstanding. Sex and Gender Are Not the Same Thing One of the most common misconceptions is that sex and gender are interchangeable. They are not. Biological Sex Biological sex refers to physical and reproductive characteristics, including: Chromosomes (commonly XX and XY, though variations exist) Hormonal profiles (testosterone, estrogen, etc.) Reproductive anatomy In most cases, sex is categorized as male or female based on these traits, though biological variation does exist. Gender Gender refers to the social, psychological, and cultural meanings attached to being male or female. This includes: Roles Expectations Behaviors Identi...

The Awakening: From Religion to Spirituality, Karma, and Self-Realization

The Awakening: From Religion to Spirituality, Karma, and Self-Realization I grew up believing in the stories of the Bible. A vengeful God. A fallen humanity. A heaven and hell separated by obedience and sin. For much of my early life, I accepted this framework as truth. Until I didn’t. Questioning What I Was Taught In my early 30s, something shifted. I began to question my beliefs—not from rebellion, but from reflection. I compared scripture with lived reality and found myself struggling with one core contradiction: How could a loving, merciful God allow so much suffering across generations? Eventually, I reached a conclusion I couldn’t avoid. I no longer believed. I became an atheist. When Meaning Disappears At first, it felt like clarity. But what followed was something I didn’t expect. A deep sense of emptiness. If life is only: survival work relationships and death then what is the point of any of it? Everything began to feel temporary, mechani...

Mastering Your Own Mind

  What did Alan Watts mean when he said "man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun"? Initially, I believed his words to be a reference to life. But today it means something more specific to me. I believe that Mr. Watts was referring to the mind. The mind is the cause of all our sufferings. Anxiety, depression, addiction, and worry, are all afflictions of the mind. So are the feelings of lack, desire, impatience, doubt, and fear. They are all manifestations of the mind that  keep us from progressing .  Conversely, the mind is a powerfully useful force. It creates, encourages, imagines, reflects, allows us to feel, interprets emotions, and does a myriad of other constructive things. It is a great gift! The mind is a useful aid, but make no mistake -  the mind is not our true self!   We cannot be the mind because the mind is too fragmented. If we were the mind we would cease to function. The mind can be in any one direction at...

What Scientology Means For Religion

  What Is Scientology A fusion of science and spirituality, Scientology prides itself as the worlds youngest major religion. It was founded by L Ron Hubbard (LRH) in the early 1950s. It posits that human beings are incarnations of a more powerful spiritual beings called Thetans  whom through the sufferings of passing through to the material realm forgot who they really were. The point of scientology then becomes to purge individuals of engrams  or traumatic experiences and memories so that they may become more Thetan-like here on earth.  Although scientology does not revolve around a mono or polytheistic God figure, it would seem that its creator Mr. Hubbard, is revered by followers of scientology as a deity in as much as his word is gospel and uncontested as truth. Scientology's lack of a God figure and the melding of pseudoscience and new-age spiritual theories is where scientology as a religion gets sketchy.  To learn more about scientology, you can check out...

The Impact of Donald Trump on America

Donald Trump claims that he has done more for the black community than any President since Abraham Lincoln. This is a very bold statement; but whether you agree or disagree the one thing that is certain is that since Lincoln's Presidency, never has the nation been as divided as it is now under the Trump administration.   What this Presidency has done is test the resolve of human decency. What is at stake in America is not so much about policies but how we as individuals see our fellow man. This presidency has done away with the middle ground. It has evolved into a world of extremes where one is either part of one viewpoint or the other with very little room for an in between. The support of Trump is viewed by its opposition as a negation of human rights, of bigotry, and of discord. Yet for those who support Trump, anyone who does not is un-American, weak, a communist or socialist. For his supporters, Trump soon stopped being a person and fast became an ideology. He is the...

Human Consciousness

What we call the self, is a collection of emotions floating within the life force we call consciousness, cocooned in the vessel of our mind-body. These collections of emotions are to consciousness what seasoning is to water: IT GIVES IT FLAVOR . Without the flavor of emotion, our connection with the world would be completely impersonal. Our bodies are a physical barrier which convinces us of the uniqueness of our existence and creates the illusion that our feelings and thoughts are unique to ourselves. Because we think our emotions are unique, we hold on to our hurts, fears, and insecurities in a belief that no one else would understand them. The visual illusion of separation that our bodies create is so strong that we neglect to see our connection to one another even when we see our emotions reflected in others. The reality is that our thoughts and feelings, both good and bad, are shared by every single human in existence. They were here before us, and they will remain in the col...

Explaining Karen

For those of you who are not familiar with the concept of Karen, I will give you the definition of Karen according to Dictionary.com. Here is what it says: Karen  is a  pejorative  slang term for an obnoxious, angry, entitled, and often racist middle-aged white woman who uses her privilege to get her way or police other people's behaviors. I would say that this is a very accurate descriptive of Karen if you take her at face value; but in digging deeper, this is what I discovered: I recently had a run in with Karen. The funny thing about it is that although I was minding my own business, when I saw her, I knew something was going to happen. And it did. I am not going to go into what happened because it is not of any importance. What is important to digest from the encounter is my realization that Karen is an energy that resides within a person, but not the person themselves. That is why I felt the incident before it happened. I know Karen is an...